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When we lose someone or something
precious to us, we grieve. We express grief when
we think and feel our sadness internally.
 When
we mourn, we express our grief outside of ourselves,
publicly. We create rituals in order to mourn. (The
most common ritual of mourning is the funeral, but many
people create other rituals, also.) We share our grief
with others through our rituals of mourning.
It is interesting to me that
many people only grieve silently and alone, but do not
mourn, other than at the funeral. Many of us have been
taught to "get over" the grief, to "act normal again,"
to "keep busy," and to "get on with life." When we internalize
these messages, we often feel as if we don't have permission
to mourn.
Resolving our losses may be
easier for us if we "share" them by being open to the
possibilities of mourning more publicly. It is ok to
cry, to talk about your loved one or your precious object
that has been lost. It is ok to reminisce and to feel
sad and to tell people how you are feeling.
Rapid Emotional Healing
can help us work through our grief so that we can effectively
mourn our losses.
Although life will never be
the same as it was before our loss, it is possible to
become less "stuck" in the loss through using EFT and
the other energy methods mentioned on these pages.
We can work through our loss
and begin to integrate our new reality by moving forward
with our lives, even though we no longer have the physical
presence of the person who has died, or we no longer
have the object that was so precious to us. After we
fully acknowledge our loss, we can begin to develop
a new sense of energy and confidence in ourselves and
can begin to become more involved in the activities
of living.
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